Month: August 2019

Betrayal in business can come in many forms – Dealing with betrayal in the small shop and handmade world

Betrayal in business can come in many forms.
Whether you have a day job, and craft in your off-hours…and deal with drama at your outside the home job~~  even if you are a micropreneur and work alone the majority of the time, we makers still interact and network with many others on social media and in chat forums. That’s the nature of what we do, it’s unavoidable. Sometimes our online relationships with our “peers” and “colleagues” can become strained and the worst can happen, you may be betrayed by someone in a working relationship. I’ve personally been betrayed a few times in the handmade small business world… from reps who started their own business, making products exactly like mine, and friending all my friends when I was sick and in the hospital… to reps who never took any pictures, kept the product I sent them and totally ghosted me… it happens.. but how do we deal with this type of thing and still maintain cooler heads, and a professional disposition?
In such scenarios, the person betrayed can feel angry, devastated and perhaps unsure whether to ever trust anyone again, say Elaine Eisenman, PhD, and Susan Stautberg, co-authors of Betrayed: A Survivor’s Guide to Lying, Cheating, & Double-Dealing. These two successful business women say they themselves have experienced betrayal professionally and personally.

Betrayal in Business

“In all relationships we trust others, believing that while they will look out for their own best interest, they will also respect ours,” Stautberg says. “Unfortunately, that’s not always so.”
In business, there’s no guarantee that even a good friend or family member deserves your confidence.
“Regardless of how well you know someone, treat any business arrangement with due diligence,” Eisenman says. “Motives can be hidden, even with the best of friends.”
So, how can business leaders and their employees avoid betrayals that can harm them and their organizations? And how should they handle the fallout if they are betrayed? Eisenman and Stautberg offer a few suggestions:
Learn to trust wisely. Blind trust can make you an easy target because you ignore the potential for human nature’s darker side, Stautberg says. But it’s also ill-advised to assume no one can be trusted ever. What you’re after, she says, is “wise trust,” which allows you to weigh each situation, assessing whether there is low or high probability of betrayal.
Listen to what your gut tells you. So-called “gut feelings” act as an early warning system. “Ignore those feelings at your own peril,” Eisenman says. She shares the story of a woman named Ingrid, a chief finance officer in the public sector who was involved in the recruiting of a comptroller who came highly recommended. Ingrid preferred to handle reference checks herself, but that was HR’s job so she backed off, even though something told her this job candidate’s credentials were too good to be true. She shouldn’t have ignored her instinct because after he was hired the comptroller was charged with white-collar crimes committed in another state. For Ingrid, this became a triple betrayal – by colleagues who tried to make her the scapegoat, by HR, who didn’t perform a thorough background check, and, of course, she was betrayed by the man she hired.
Don’t seek revenge immediately – if at all. Planning revenge continues to provide the betrayer with power over you rather than allowing you to take that power into your own hands. It’s more productive to distance yourself from the betrayal and shore up your emotions with rational thoughts. That will help you begin to derive lessons from the traumatic event.
If you are betrayed, there is no need to beat up on yourself. “It is critical to recognize that what you are feeling is completely normal,” Eisenman says. “If you blow the event out of proportion, exaggerating its impact on all aspects of your life, you’ll only postpone your recovery.”
“The key to moving forward is self-compassion,” Stautberg says. “Get yourself to a safe space, both physically and emotionally, and get some sleep. Being rested will help you think clearly and you’re going to need your wits to survive.”
Reactions to stress differ. So, don’t worry if your immediate reaction includes anger. Try to balance it  and take the energy to hold onto your power. Surround yourself with friends. Have the courage to move forward and leave the past behind. Learn to pivot. Eisenman and Stautberg discovered that the formula for success is creating a new positive, self-confidence about work and informed risk taking.  Learn how to BOUNCE – Be Bold, Optimistic, Undaunted, Nimble, Courageous, and Empowered.
About Elaine Eisenman, PhD
Elaine Eisenman, PhD, co-author with Susan Stautberg of Betrayed: A Survivor’s Guide to Lying, Cheating, & Double Dealing, currently serves as an independent Board Director for DBI, Inc. (NYSE), as well as for AtmosXR and Miravan, both privately held companies. She is the Managing Director of Saeje Advisors, LLC, an advisory firm for high growth ventures. Former Dean of Executive and Enterprise Education at Babson College, she works closely with CEOs and their executive teams to create cultures that accelerate growth. She is a frequent speaker on the topic of turning risk into opportunity.
About Susan Stautberg
Susan Stautberg is Governance Advisor to the portfolio companies of Atlantic Street Capital, a private equity firm. She is also President and CEO of PartnerCom Corporation and Chair Emeritus of the WomenCorporateDirectors Education and Development Foundation (WCD). Susan addresses groups around the world, including leading business schools and CEO conferences. She has written or been featured in numerous articles including The New York TimesThe Wall Street Journal, and The Financial Times and her on-air experience includes OprahThe Today ShowCBS Evening NewsCNN and many others.

Are YOU Capable of bouncing back from betrayal in business?

Betrayal in Business

The authors of the book (Elaine Eisenman or Susan Stautberg )  will be hosting a signing for their new book, Betrayed: A Survivor’s Guide to Lying, Cheating, & Double-Dealing, it will be held Sept. 10th in Chicago!

Chicago Native Trains To Be A U.S. Navy Future Warfighter

Chicago Native Trains to be a U.S. Navy Future Warfighter

Published with permission. Written by Mass Communication Specialist 1st Class Jerry Jimenez, Navy Office of Community Outreach
We love to recognize our local heroes on the blog, so pleased to present this blog post from Navy Outreach. Goosie Girl would like to personally say thank you to Petty Officer 2nd Class Michael Chandler and his family for raising a selfless individual, willing to put his life on the line for myself, my family and the rest of the country on a daily basis. Your dedication and sacrifice has not gone unnoticed by us. Keep up the good work, we’re really proud of you.
GREAT LAKES, Ill. – Sailors are some of the most highly-trained people on the planet, according to Navy officials, and this training requires highly-dedicated instructors.

U.S. Navy photo by Mass Communication Specialist 1st Class Jesse Hawthorne

At Naval Education and Training command, instructors at advanced technical schools teach sailors to be highly skilled, operational, and combat ready warfighters, while providing the tools and opportunities for continuous learning and development.

Petty Officer 2nd Class Michael Chandler, a native of Chicago, is a student at NETC, learning the necessary skills needed to be an interior communications electrician.

An interior communications electrician is responsible for repairing and operating various electrical equipment onboard Navy warships and land-based commands.

Students attend advanced technical schools after “boot camp.” They are taught the basic technical knowledge and skills required to be successful in their new careers.

Chandler, a 2010 graduate of Von Steuben High School, credits success in the Navy to many of the lessons learned growing up in Chicago.

“I’ve witnessed that when you put forth 100 percent effort, you have the ability to accomplish any task, no matter how big the venture,” Chandler said.

NETC educates and trains those who serve, providing the tools and opportunities which enable life-long learning, professional and personal growth and development, ensuring fleet readiness and mission accomplishment.

NETC is made up of six commands that provide a continuum of professional education and training in support of Surface Navy requirements that prepare enlisted sailors and officers to serve at sea, providing apprentice and specialized skills training to 7,500 sailors a year.

A key element of the Navy the nation needs is tied to the fact that America is a maritime nation, and that the nation’s prosperity is tied to the ability to operate freely on the world’s oceans. More than 70 percent of the Earth’s surface is covered by water; 80 percent of the world’s population lives close to a coast; and 90 percent of all global trade by volume travels by sea.

Chandler plays an important role in America’s focus on rebuilding military readiness, strengthening alliances and reforming business practices in support of National Defense Strategy.

“Our priorities center on people, capabilities and processes, and will be achieved by our focus on speed, value, results and partnerships,” said Secretary of the Navy Richard V. Spencer. “Readiness, lethality and modernization are the requirements driving these priorities.”

Though there are many ways for sailors to earn distinction in their command, community and career, Chandler is most proud of being awarded the Navy and Marine Corps Achievement Medal.

“To me, this award represents the hard work and lessons I have learned during my five-year tenure onboard USS Decatur,” Chandler said.

Serving in the Navy is a continuing tradition of military service for Chandler, who has military ties with family members who have previously served. Chandler is honored to carry on the family tradition.

“My father was a private in the U.S. Army and a Vietnam veteran,” Chandler said. “I also have two uncles that served in the Air Force and an uncle who was a boatswain’s mate in the Navy. Most of the men in my family served and I am proud to continue the tradition.”

As a member of one of the U.S. Navy’s most relied-upon assets, Chandler and other sailors know they are part of a legacy that will last beyond their lifetimes providing the Navy the nation needs.

“Serving in the Navy gives me an opportunity to contribute to the protection of our country that I love,” Chandler said. “It’s a chance to mentor junior sailors and learn from the seniors. It’s about not only growing as a sailor, but as a human being.”

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Summer’s Last Hurrah

My youngest son (Jack) went back to school today. He has officially begun his High School career. This was nearly as heart wrenching for me as was the first day of kindergarten! It’s so emotional approaching milestones since my mom passed away. He’s my baby, and I’d like for him to stay my baby (forever!) It feels like just yesterday I was sniffling my way through his kindergarten graduation ceremony, that day surely could not be nearly 10 years ago, could it?! Wahhhh, I’m going to cry my face off! I was speaking with a friend of mine from my own high school days, and she mentioned that it seems like the kids go back to school earlier every year. I remember not going back to school until after labor day when I was a kid! My friend said, “It seems summer break is shrinking, if I was still a kid I’d be pissed. lol!” ~ I couldn’t agree more. haha! Hopefully we can still get in some Summer fun over the weekends with what we have left of the month.  I had wanted to go to Lake Geneva Wisconsin for a beach day, and also get to a few more farmer’s markets.

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It's not selfish, it's self care

It’s Not Selfish, It’s self-care and it’s important : Monday Motivation

It's not selfish, it's self care

Monday Motivation Blog Series from Goosie Girl. Shop Small Dream Big.

It’s Monday again, some hate this day of the week; I on the otherhand live for Mondays. I think I get more accomplished on Monday than any day of the week; and today is no exception.

Monday is for the Motivated! I hope you all had a great weekend, and I hope all the admins enjoyed their NEW Sunday Schedules! I’m reading a book right now called “The Wall Street Journal’s Small Business Guidebook” and it has opened my eyes to something that I was overlooking in life, and business. although it didn’t say this specifically, it got my wheels turning and it opened my eyes to the fact that we , as parents and as small business owners. WE are the all encompassing fuel that pushes our businesses forward.. like a car, or a truck… we need to put good things in to make it run well… not only do I believe in the power of positivity, I believe in self-care,  healthy boundaries, eating well , getting enough sleep, and schedules that give us some down time to re-charge and re-boot.

It's Not Selfish, It's Self Care

Entrepreneurship is stressful, and micropreneurship- (what WE all do) is even more stressful because we wear all the hats. In this book they talk a lot at the beginning about trying to figure out if starting and owning a small business is really for you. They talk about the toll it takes on your family, the toll it takes on your social life, but it doesn’t talk too much about the toll on you– your bodies, your mental well-being either… It’s important to fuel ourselves with good things such as surrounding ourselves with a positive support network (such as fellow gypsies!) , eating well, getting exercise and enough sleep as well.

If we don’t take care of number ONE (us) , then everything else falls apart and the wheels come off. It’s not being selfish, it’s self-care, and that’s perfectly acceptable and needed to be in the roles we are in. This is one of the reasons I declared Sundays an official day off for the admin team. If we keep putting out, and get depleted then we won’t be much help to anyone.
I hope you guys can take a few minutes and watch this TED talk by Ariana Huffington at some point, it’s like 5 minutes long, and it’s about getting enough good sleep.
I care about each of you, and want you to all take care of yourselves the way that you deserve, quit burning the candle at both ends, and take care of YOU… otherwise your businesses along with everything else will suffer.

Happy Monday, I hope this was motivating!

xo Goose

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